Anonymous asked:
Anon, I love you right now. OH MY WORD.
Anonymous asked:
Anon, I love you right now. OH MY WORD.
Anonymous asked:
I don’t regret much in my life, the things I’ve been through and mistakes I’ve made have shaped me into the person I am today. But I will say I regret is the way things ended. I was young and stupid and going through a lot and while that’s not an excuse, I could have handled it A LOT better. But I know Tasha was definitely meant to play the role in my life she plays now. She’s an incredible human being and I feel honored to know her.
Also, think about how it would feel if someone that has only seen snapshots of one of your relationships told you that they had an opinion on who your “one” was. While I share my life online, what is seen is so small in comparison to the entirety of the relationship and even then the only people that truly can speak on it are the two involved. While it seemed like our relationship was very “picturesk”, it was by no means perfect. But i’m glad we shared the time together that we did. Again, she’s an absolutely amazing human being who has shown me forgiveness, kindness, and love and I’m honored to call her my friend.
Anonymous asked:
Over the years I’ve learned anytime anyone makes it a point to try and make me feel small or worthless it has a lot less to do with me and everything to do with them. I remind myself that it’s really easy to attack my character because I openly wear my imperfections on my sleeve and share my entire life online. It helps maintain a healthy perspective and helps me find the reason behind behavior that has vicious intent.
I know the feeling when someone attacks you and all you want is to defend yourself - but I can assure you, that will get you no where.
You have to remember, if someone is coming at you - nothing you can say is going to get through to them. They’re not there to listen, they’re there to make jabs at you and “make a point”. Don’t ever waste energy on someone that is trying to tear you down in ANY way. Put your energy into those that are there to lift you up.
And for the record, not all my exes have treated me in a negative way. There are some incredible people in my life that I’ve dated that treat me with kindness, love, and understanding and I feel incredibly fortunate to have them in my life. I always hope for that outcome after a relationship ends. Just because you aren’t with someone anymore doesn’t mean it needs to be negative and hateful. Give yourself time to heal and if the two of you are ready to build a positive friendship, go for it. :)
Teach me how to gracefully let go of things not meant for me.
cest-tragique-deactivated201701 asked:
I don’t see myself getting married inherently no, I never have. When I was little I never dreamed of meeting “the one” and having a wedding. Instead I imagined myself in a big house with a dalmatian and a pool haha.
I identify as solo-poly, and one of the things about that relationship identity is that I see a possible future with a platonic partner. Meaning I would share things like finances, a house, even kids with someone that I didn’t have a romantic relationship with. THAT is appealing to me.
Anonymous asked:
For the first time ever I’m going to record an EP and release it on iTunes sometime next year! :)
Anonymous asked:
It takes work on both ends. You put in work to gain mutual respect for one another and the relationship you shared together. Then you begin to learn what it’s like to have them in your life as a friend. But, that’s only possible if you’re in a good place with them. Some exes for example will take advantage of the friendship and string you along for attention. Others may still be resentful and find ways to place blame. So it doesn’t work for every person that you’ve previously had a relationship with.
Anonymous asked:
Yes! Think of polyamory like the term queer. It’s a large term to describe everything involving romance with more than one person.
- Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender = Queer
- Solo-poly, open relationships, triads (relationship with 3 people) = Queer
Anonymous asked:
I’m not the jealous type no. I experience compersion a lot. Compersion is when you feel love seeing someone you love experience happiness, (usually at the result of caring for and being cared for by someone else). Think of it like the opposite of jealousy.
That being said, jealousy is a natural human emotion so I am prone to experiencing it. For me it’s usually a “flash” of jealousy. I just remind myself that it’s coming from insecurities inside of ME. I take a deep breath and look at the situation logically: The person I am experiencing jealousy over doesn’t love me any less, and their love and bond for/with someone else is completely separate from our relationship.
I’m grateful for those few moments of jealousy because they are opportunities for me to learn and grow.